Comments on: 10 Reasons Why I Don’t Do My Kid’s Homework

By: Derek Spanfelner

Derek Spanfelner — Thu, 19 Mar 2015 15:16:00 +0000

Claudya,

As a former teacher myself, I thank you! If parents are too involved in doing homework FOR their kids (instead of providing helpful hints or using the teacher’s references), then it’s bad news in so many ways for your child. They may come to use you as a crutch, have undeveloped study skills, and then fall behind because of your good intentions.

I was just talking to a friend of mine whose two year old daughter still frequently gets up at night to be held because she never allowed her to learn how to soothe herself. Doing your kids’ homework is basically the same thing at a more advanced age… teach them study skills, structure a homework time, look over the homework afterward, these can all help. Doing it for them? NO!!!

Thanks for sharing.

By: María José Ovalle

María José Ovalle — Tue, 17 Mar 2015 13:52:00 +0000

Claudya, I agree and my son is only in Kindergarten, so not even “real” HW but moms are freaking out about them doing it perfectly. I am not a control freak when it comes to parenting, probably because my laid back very chilean parents weren’t either. As for HW, it’s his job to go to school and do it. My mom rarely helped (and jajajaja, English isn’t her first language either) and when the teachers said you need to work extra with her at home my mom said “that’s why she goes to school…” Anyway, I want my kids to learn on their own, make mistakes because I don’t want them growing up with unnecessary pressure and have control issues about being perfect. Laissez-faire for me 🙂 And yeah, I have better things to do 😉

By: Star Traci

Star Traci — Wed, 11 Mar 2015 14:51:00 +0000

I agree! My rule was — try it yourself, come to me if you need help, and I’ll check it when you’re finished.
Now that we’re traveling, however, I am the teacher so it’s a lot different. 😉

XOXO

By: Vidya Sury

Vidya Sury — Wed, 11 Mar 2015 05:51:00 +0000

Yes times 10!

Great attitude, Claudya. I am completely with you. And I personally endorse your 10 reasons because today, in the 12th Grade, my son is managing fine by itself and my involvement is restricted to ensuring he eats, sleeps, relaxes enough! 😀

By: deborahpucci

deborahpucci — Tue, 10 Mar 2015 16:13:00 +0000

Those are great reasons and I agree with you! I think that is why I struggled with my daughter when she was in school. I should have stayed away……