Comments on: Bad Neighbor (Open Letter)

By: Profwaynewsmith

Profwaynewsmith — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 00:05:00 +0000

Children are the antithesis of sleep…

By: Myya Says...

Myya Says... — Sat, 26 Jan 2013 07:36:00 +0000

Ahhh what a tough situation. I feel for you 🙁

By: Vidya Sury

Vidya Sury — Sat, 26 Jan 2013 01:41:00 +0000

🙂 Ha ha ha! I always pray for my neighbors’ happiness – if they’re happy, they have no time to think about us! We do have nice neighbors.

Although, even when Vidur was a little ‘un, it was our wild laughter that must have bugged the ‘eck outta the neighbors!

There’s good(?) news Claudya….they grow up. Too soon, I feel. 🙂

By: deborahpucci

deborahpucci — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 21:39:00 +0000

I’ve never lived very long in an apt. setting but people would have had a hard time listening to mine also when they were young.

By: From Tracie

From Tracie — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 12:32:00 +0000

I remember those years so well. We lived in a duplex and the nice man who lived next door to us was kind enough to lie to our faces, and say that he didn’t hear the screams all night long…..we knew this was a lie because the loudest thing he ever did was use his microwave and we could hear it beep every time it was finished cooking.

By: kelly thompson

kelly thompson — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 04:03:00 +0000

oops….oh well….maybe to feel better about it you can give him/her a small gift and an apology and you may find out that they are deaf and cant even hear or something!

By: lisleman

lisleman — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 03:50:00 +0000

It all has a bad cycle to it. Lack of good restful sleep makes for crabby next day I suspect. I hope you get her sleep peacefully soon.

By: The Bipolar Diva

The Bipolar Diva — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 00:18:00 +0000

Oh how I remember those days, long and tiring. But it doesn’t last forever and is really a relatively short time (I know that’s easy for me to say on this side of motherhood) in the scheme of things. Just hang on and try to stay in control….ha, another easy thing for me to say.

By: Bee

Bee — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 00:00:00 +0000

I’m the upstairs neighbor, but the problem isn’t that the downstairs neighbors — who are very nice — have babies. It’s that their ceiling/our floor is so thin we can hear when the husband sneezes! We can practically hear their conversations, and we can definitely hear when their tween decides to practice singing by doing karaoke. Sigh. Also, I love dogs, but not dogs who bark all day while they’re out of the house. I suggested that maybe the dog has separation anxiety, but they weren’t that committed to him, so they gave him away.

Oddly enough, we can only hear our upstairs neighbors when they’re wearing heels, and she said that our TV is never too loud. My husband and I think that the garden apartment below ours was probably not meant to be used as a unit originally.

Sorry for the rant, but I had to get this off my chest.

By: Tree a.k.a Mother of Pearl

Tree a.k.a Mother of Pearl — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 23:55:00 +0000

I remember those days very well! And I don’t miss them either. Hopefully, you can figure out what’s causing it, and get them to sleep.

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 22:46:00 +0000

In reply to Angel Shrout.

She is going through lots of changes (i.e. started preschool a few months ago, got a language assessment test for kindergarten, her sister is about to start preschool as well). Thank you for the insight. It’s crazy because last night she did great. Slept all night no problem, but many other nights she is a mess. It’s like she is a totally different person than who she is in the day.
Her sister has a doctor’s appointment next week (they have the same doctor), I’ll ask the doctor about night terrors and melatonin. I’ve taken melatonin myself before.

By: Angel Shrout

Angel Shrout — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 22:36:00 +0000

In reply to unknownmami. That truly does sound like what is happening. Has she been doing a lot of growing steps lately, Changes in school, learning more things that seem to just be happening so fast. It seems that when they have a growth spurt in their life be it physically or emotionally or however and a lot of things open up suddenly those night terrors are the result. Physically they may be ready, mentally they may not be and their brain reminds them of that in their sleep. We had to invest in melatonin to help my son fall into a deeper pattern of sleep, which is where dreams stop. It seems night terrors tend to occur just as the child is in the light stage of sleep headed to deep sleep. The time when dreams occur. Because they are so close to deep sleep it is hard for them to awaken from the nightmare. One night my son screamed for me for 10 minutes, tears rolling down his face arms outstretched and I was right there, patting him talking to him, trying to wake him up. Talk about ripping my heart out. The medication was a miracle and it is something the body makes naturally so it's not like a drug. It seemed that while he was growing up his body wasn't keeping up with enough production of this to help him get to deep sleep. Maybe that will help. It sure can't hurt.

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 21:54:00 +0000

In reply to Angel Shrout. The last time it happened, I really thought it might be night terrors.

By: Angel Shrout

Angel Shrout — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 21:29:00 +0000

Aww I hate when they get days and nights mixed up. Is it possible the older is having night terrors? That is about the age my boys developed them and it was horrific. Heart wrenching screams eyes wide open and yet they were still sound asleep and I was a basket case trying to get them calmed and awake to realize it was only a dream. Hopefully your neighbors realize and are parents themselves.

By: LL Cool Joe

LL Cool Joe — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 18:37:00 +0000

Oh dear, mine are 14 and 18 and we still get the screaming and shouting. And that’s just me! 😀

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 17:07:00 +0000

In reply to Zlopezf. It is absolutely exhausting.

By: Eva Gallant

Eva Gallant — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 15:53:00 +0000

So glad those days are gone!

By: Zlopezf

Zlopezf — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 14:22:00 +0000

I have the same issue! I am glad that the person below me has a crying child too! My youngest daughter cries so much sometimes she makes herself throw up! I don’t know what to do with her. I have tried everything! She won’t stay put in her bed and if she does she wakes up like 4 or 5 times!