Comments on: Dear Absent Father

By: heidi

heidi — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:05:00 +0000

Gut wrenching. Only because I can relate. My dad is back in my life after decades of absense. We're friends, now, but it's been a long road.

By: NYC Mama

NYC Mama — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:47:00 +0000

This moves me in a different way – I was raised with my Dad so I don't see myself in this letter, but I do see my son writing this letter one day — and in a way, that hurts me even more. …sad sigh…

By: Mama Kat

Mama Kat — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 20:34:00 +0000

You're so right. Having kids really puts things into perspective…we see just how hard some of our parents work and just how hard the others had to work at not being there. I can't even imagine. I wish I could turn back time and give you a normal dad…but then you probably wouldn't be you anymore.

By: Jenners

Jenners — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 23:49:00 +0000

This was so heart-breaking and so true. I feel for you … sounds like your mom did a great job but I'm sure it was hard not to have a dad around. I like how you opened the letter … very appropriate, I think. This was well done. Bless you and may your daughter never know the absence of her father.

By: Marrdy

Marrdy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:14:00 +0000

First of all, I love your picture! It's great.I too, had an absent father. It was painful, I was angry and I didn't understand. I hated him. Could barely stand to think of him. Then one day I decided to put it behind me and then he had a stroke…could no longer talk, could no longer tell me why he left, why he didn't love me enough (or at all). But I did forgive him and actually felt love for him. It amazes me to this day. When he died, I cried like a two year old. Not because I would miss him but because I missed a childhood with a loving father. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Hopefully someday you can find some peace in the situation. Hugs to you!

By: Mrs.No

Mrs.No — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 13:06:00 +0000

Dear Unknown Mami, we might be related.

By: Tammy Howard

Tammy Howard — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:54:00 +0000

His loss. Absolutely.

By: Rocksee

Rocksee — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:18:00 +0000

I could write this very same letter. I hate to say that I know how you feel, but I do. Everyday. Big love to your blog. I think this was a great post.

By: Trudy

Trudy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 02:50:00 +0000

This was sad, but also a beautiful letter. You are someone whose father should be very proud of!Visiting from Mama Kat's.

By: "FINE"al thoughts...

"FINE"al thoughts... — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 02:22:00 +0000

I'm glad you wrote that letter. I bet there's a lot of children that could sign their name to the bottom of it. No child should have to feel deserted by a parent and I'm glad yours has two that love her! Here from Mama Kat!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 22:56:00 +0000

Is it bad to say that it was beautiful? I say that only because you clearly opened yourself up and didn't hold anything back. I think it's good to let out your frustrations! Thanks for stopping by my blog earlier and offering such valuable words! 🙂 I loved the letter writing topic this week!

By: Kiki (G.G.)

Kiki (G.G.) — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 22:27:00 +0000

Thanks for visiting my blog. Thank you for sharing your letter. Your daughter and husband are very blessed to have you in their lives. Take care.-Kiki

By: Maureen

Maureen — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 21:16:00 +0000

Now, I don't need to be sniffling this early in the morning! While there have been times in my life that I wished I didn't have the father that was gifted me, the two things I will always give my Dad credit for is he is always there and always loves me more than I think he ever knew he could love something. I think he is a perfect example of loving so much that it hurts. Not because he gushes, but because he wasn't given the "tools" to express it.

By: Kekibird

Kekibird — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 16:04:00 +0000

I agree with Maureen! I don't need tears before lunch!!It was very beautifully written and I could feel the pain in it but also the pride in your current self.Congrats on all that you've accomplished and who you've become.I'm glad you stopped by my blog and enabled me in my addiction :o)Happy Thursday!

By: crazyoatie

crazyoatie — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 14:41:00 +0000

That was beautiful and brave. Your daughter is a lucky girl to have you.

By: April

April — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 13:57:00 +0000

You sound like a wonderful person. His loss.Visiting from MamaKats.

By: Life with Kaishon

Life with Kaishon — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 12:57:00 +0000

Oh, this made me sad. He doesn't know what he is missing! You are funny and wonderful and smart : ). And your baby is adorable. I am sorry for his loss.