Comments on: I’m a Jerk

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Sat, 28 Sep 2013 00:26:00 +0000

In reply to cecilia. Thank you for letting me know.

By: cecilia

cecilia — Fri, 27 Sep 2013 23:45:00 +0000

you made me cry and made me realize Im a jerk too…thank you…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 17:44:00 +0000

This is good. How can we not see how much alike we are? Most of the time we just want to do what makes our child happy, we don’t do it to bug them but I know it can feel that way. I have learned to not comment or change things. My daughter cleans my house and is always moving things. She is great at setting up amazing displays but I like things the way I had them so I move them. It is my house!

By: Mrs4444

Mrs4444 — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 00:09:00 +0000

Well, fortunately, she is still here for you to do something sweet for her, like write her a little thank you note for the calabacitas.

By: Paula (The Sea Green Journal)

Paula (The Sea Green Journal) — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 06:17:00 +0000

Moms are amazing *tear*

By: The Bipolar Diva

The Bipolar Diva — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 22:47:00 +0000

Sometimes we moms have a hard time letting go. I know I do with my grown kids. It sounds like your mom really loves you. You’ve helped me see, though, why sometimes my girls act the way they do with me and for that I thank you. On another hand, your mom may drive you nuts sometimes, but you have her. I don’t have mine anymore and I really wish she was here to make me crazy.

By: Mamamyya3

Mamamyya3 — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 20:56:00 +0000

Awe. You realizing it will make you more aware & that is a huge move on your part to wanting to communicate better with your mama. I love that you always say whatever it is that you are feeling & there is no sugar coating it. I have this same exact feeling with my mom a lot of the time!

By: LindyLouMac in Italy

LindyLouMac in Italy — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 12:29:00 +0000

As a mother of two daughters and a daughter of a lovely Mum that died just two months ago, this post made me smile. 🙂

By: brainella

brainella — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 12:01:00 +0000

Oh, friend…if only you knew how often this has happened with me and my mother. I think there is this invisible force between mothers and daughters that make us act like fools at different times. I know how much my mother loves me yet I let silly things drive me crazy and I hurt her feelings for no real reason. Will we change our ways before it’s too late? 🙂

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 11:56:00 +0000

It’s unconditional love with a few hiccups along the way! Say your sorry always erases the jerkiness!

By: blueviolet

blueviolet — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 11:50:00 +0000

It sounds like you’re so much alike, and because of that you butt heads a lot. My daughter and her dad are the same way.

PS. So, so, so very bummed we never met! 🙁

By: Kristin_The_Goat

Kristin_The_Goat — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 07:57:00 +0000

The mirror is hard to look into without seeing parts of ourselves. I notice that the things that bug me about my mom or my sisters are the parts that I try to hide from myself or are things that I do, but dislike about myself.

It’s tough growing up! and we thought we were all done with that part of our lives so many years ago.

By: Katharine

Katharine — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 07:02:00 +0000

You are not a jerk. You are realizing now,what makes up the often complicated mother/daughter relationship, and at least you can be honest about it all! Every minute that the two of you have together to try and figure this out is important. I wish my mom was here to be jerk to me… I’d try and be a lot more honest…

By: tracismixedbag

tracismixedbag — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 05:56:00 +0000

You may feel that way but if you were really a jerk you wouldn’t realize you were being a jerk. From what I know jerks are not that self aware. It looks like besides blogher you had lots going on in your visit. I can’t wait to hear more about your time in SD.

By: auntof14

auntof14 — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 05:26:00 +0000

Oh Mami… this brought tears to my eyes.

At first I was all like well, if you’re going to respect her wishes, shouldn’t she also respect yours? By the end of your post, I had an attitude adjustment.

See, thats what Moms do. They treat you with love even when you’re being a twit.

I did something to my mother years ago that could easily have made her disown me… but did she? No. She found a way to forgive me and love me even more than she did before. It’s that love that keeps me on the straight now. I still cannot believe she still loves me sometimes… but thats how God made Moms, and I can only hope to love my future children the same way. It’s how I try to treat my nieces and nephews now.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 03:44:00 +0000

Please don’t be so hard on yourself. I think at some time in our lives, we’ve all said words that hurt our moms (unintentionally). What many of your commenters are saying is to talk about it, and then let it go. I’m finding my teenage daughters are doing the same with me without realizing it. I am responding the way my mom did by forgiving and letting go. Make the most of every moment with your mom, even the trying moments.

By: VM Sehy Photography

VM Sehy Photography — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 02:24:00 +0000

I had a very similar relationship with my mother. Once I said you never get me anything I like I’d rather have money. So she gave me a check for my birthday after that. I wish I had kept my mouth shut. She may not have always gotten it right, but the item she made an effort to pick out was a lot more personal than a check. Let it go. I think you’ve figured that out. I got along with my mother so much better after I did. The sooner you do this the more happy years you will have with her. She’ll be gone before you know it and then there’s no way to get back the wasted time.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 02:18:00 +0000

Cherish all those feelings because one day she won’t be here to bother you. When my parents do something that embarrasses me I just soak in the embarrassing feelings and think about how one day………it’ll all be just a memory. Which is sad really. But ya know they still embarrass me but I appreciate their embarrassing things…does that even make sense?

Anyway, I still think of your wheelchair girl in the thrift store and you tooting on her and your mom thinking it was the wheelchair girl and it’s even making me laugh now! I love you and your mom.

By: keetha

keetha — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 01:43:00 +0000

I think mother/daughyer relationships are very yhard. I thought I’d be better with my girls than my mom was with me, but now i”m not so sure.

Hang in there and adjust keep loving.

By: Eva Gallant

Eva Gallant — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 00:34:00 +0000

My mother used to criticize me every time I came home. I should cut my hair, I should lose weight, I should dress differently, yada , yada, yada. Finally, one day I sat down and told her how that made me feel, and that sometimes I dreaded visiting because of it. Well, she felt so bad about it! I don’t think she ever realized what she was doing and how I felt. After that, she always found something to praise me for when I visited, and stopped criticizing. I was so glad I had told her how I felt, because I honestly believe she had no idea that she was doing it. We became even closer after that. I always lived (after college) at least an hour away or more. I began to call her daily on the phone and visited as often as I could until the day she died. I still miss her today…It’s been 25 years. No one loves you like your mother does. I hope my kids feel that way about me.