Comments on: My Brother…same old story https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/ Funny San Francisco Latina Blogger Wed, 08 Jul 2015 02:17:43 +0000 hourly 1 By: unknownmami https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-23473 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 14:48:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-23473 In reply to Chantelle Elms.

Thank you.

]]> By: Chantelle Elms https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-23471 Tue, 11 Sep 2012 07:22:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-23471 You might like to check out http://www.siblingsupport.com.au 

]]> By: Guest https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-15811 Fri, 21 Oct 2011 12:52:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-15811 I can understand what you’re going through. I have a younger (20 year old) brother who’s on the verge of drug addiction.

I let him live with me for some time and help me in my business, but that stopped working because my room-mate also occasionally does drugs and that gave my brother full access to whatever he wanted to smoke.

Now he’s back with my parents, troubles them everyday, and I don’t know what to do !

]]> By: Jai https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-13158 Mon, 27 Jun 2011 23:55:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-13158 Girl I’m right there with you. My brother is 41 and a drug addict. He’s divorced with four kids (3 from his wife) and a grandfather. Still is in and out of rehab and in and out of church!! Hang in there!

]]> By: unknownmami https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12650 Mon, 06 Jun 2011 23:29:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12650 In reply to Naturalmente Mamá.

Gracias, amiga.

]]> By: Naturalmente Mamá https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12649 Mon, 06 Jun 2011 23:27:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12649 I read this post from my phone when you published it and did not know what to say.. today I read it again and I still do not know what to say.. Till I find the right words I want you to know that you’re in my prayers and that I wish the best for your family.

]]> By: Carmen Henesy aka RNSANE https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12599 Sun, 05 Jun 2011 02:42:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12599 As an RN for 45 years, I have seen – and heard – so many horrible stories like this.  In the past 21 years, before budget cuts ended my job as a forensic nurse for the city, I listened to rape victims and children relate stories of abuse by drug addicts, many who were given second – and third – and fourth chances by loved ones, desperate to see the brothers and sisters and fathers and friends change their lives.  Drugs are so powerful and their hold on an individual seems to exclude all else.  Still, we hate to give up on someone whom we love.  Sometimes, for the good of ourselves and our family, that is what we must do, not that we don’t continue to pray that, somehow, a miracle may happen to save this soul.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

]]> By: 4thfrog https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12598 Sun, 05 Jun 2011 02:09:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12598 Do you live close? Maybe you can drop off some groceries. Send a prepaid Visa card. Support your SIL and your nephew however you can in whatever way that allows you to remain detached from the drama. Prayers to all…

]]> By: unknownmami https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12580 Sat, 04 Jun 2011 01:27:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12580 In reply to gayle.

Thank you, friend.

]]> By: Classic NYer https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12575 Fri, 03 Jun 2011 23:25:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12575 Big hug for you and bigger hug for his son… ::hug:: ::bigger-hug::

]]> By: Anonymous https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12553 Fri, 03 Jun 2011 09:11:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12553 It is so much harder to deal with when it’s family. I am sorry for his wife and kid to have to go through that, and sorry for your family too.

]]> By: gayle https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12544 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 23:56:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12544 Hopefully you all will get a happy ending! It’s so hard when someone we love makes such terrible choices! Thinking of you!

]]> By: Laurie Matherne https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12543 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 23:17:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12543 I am so very sorry that you have to be part of the pain in this family drama. Yesterday I talked to a woman who took in a runaway. She was living in the streets because her mom is a cocaine addict, and she doesn’t want her teen daughter in the house anymore. Just the drug selling boyfriend. The pain of addiction touches so many. In every country. 

]]> By: TechnoBabe . https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12482 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 05:40:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12482 Good thing you are not asking for advice because there just is not any good way to be around this. I left relationships in the past because they loved drugs more. Worrying about his wife is nonproductive, although it hurts to see others hurting. She is choosing to stay in the relationship. She will either stay like it is now; or she will finally have enough and move on, or a miracle could happen and your brother could finally hit bottom and work on changing his life. It has happened to many people even those users for many more years than your brother has been using. I commend you for taking care of yourself and being a whole person for your family. 

]]> By: unknownmami https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12511 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 04:18:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12511 In reply to Lori.

Thank you for putting yourself out there. I appreciate your sharing your experience and although it makes me incredibly sad that you went through it all, I am happy to know that some people can come out the other side. No matter what, I cannot stop loving my brother. I would have to stop being me, to stop loving him.

]]> By: Anonymous https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12506 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 03:07:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12506 In reply to unknownmami.

Thanks so much, sweetie. I really hope your brother is moved to change his life. But I know how awful it is to feel powerless in this situation. To have to watch someone you love make these choices and not be able to do anything to change the course of the river. Remember that your love for him is all you can give him and that he is the one who needs to turn his life around. For me, accepting that I wasn’t responsible for my sister’s problems was one of the hardest things I had to do. If you ever want to talk, I’m here. Always. 214-394-5932.

]]> By: unknownmami https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12503 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 02:10:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12503 In reply to Anonymous.

I am so unbelievably sorry. I have no words. Know that I love you.

]]> By: Anonymous https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12499 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 01:41:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12499 I can’t even begin to tell you how sorry I am. I lost my sister to alcoholism last month. It was a painful cruel death. Like watching suicide in slow motion. I will pray for a happy ending with your brother. I hope the treatment really sticks this time. Sending you all the love in my heart.

]]> By: Anonymous https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12492 Thu, 02 Jun 2011 00:19:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12492 At least his son has a mother and Aunt that seem to care.  Your brother… I hope the “help” works.

]]> By: Anonymous https://byclaudya.com/my-brother-same-old-story/#comment-12478 Wed, 01 Jun 2011 22:13:00 +0000 http://byclaudya.com/?p=2638#comment-12478 I am so sorry. This is very sad. This brought me to tears. ((HUGS))

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