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By: Lauren F

Lauren F — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 21:23:00 +0000

I’m not in favour of spanking either. I was spanked as a child, and I was never strongly for or against it when I was growing up. But I have a 20 month old now and I no longer agree with it. Yes, I have spanked him when I was very unsure of what else to do, but it never worked, so I found other forms of discipline that work much better.

BUT, I did find when I was swatting his bum when he was younger (closer to 1) HE WAS DOING A LOT OF HITTING. After I stopped spanking him, he stopped hitting.

For my child it was a direct relationship. Me hitting him taught him it was okay to hit me and others.

By: ChrisH

ChrisH — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 03:00:00 +0000

Well done!
I used to spank.
I don’t anymore.
AND it has nothing to do with it being ILLEGAL in this country to spank your child … I do think we spank a child to relieve our ANGER more often than not.
Now I send them to their room, or take away something they want for a while… it’s much more satisfying for sure! lol
And strangely enough, this form of discipline works way better!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 19:36:00 +0000

Your husband is a fine, fine man. Mine agrees with my anti-spanking mindset, thankfully. But if he didn’t, I’d like to think we’d be able to discuss it as rationally as you two did.

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 17:31:00 +0000

In reply to Lindsay. Aww, your daddy sounds like a sweetie.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 16:59:00 +0000

I’m not a huge fan of spanking either. My mom was the disciplinarian in the family so she spanked us a few times here and there. I remember one time I was “bullying” my little brother and I guess my dad got really annoyed with me and out of nowhere, he just spanked me on the butt. I was in such shock because he had NEVER spanked me before. I turned around, looked at him with my shocked face, and he suddenly realized what he’d done. He scooped me up in his arms and hugged me for a long time, apologizing over and over. He never spanked me again after that. Thanks to him, I didn’t want to enforce spanking in my parenting skills.

By: Ray

Ray — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 07:29:00 +0000

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By: Kristin & Megan

Kristin & Megan — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 23:52:00 +0000

That’s awesome that you were able to resolve it so easily!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 17:33:00 +0000

You handled a difficult subject well and I am so glad your husband and you are on the same wave length.

By: Thebipolardiva

Thebipolardiva — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 16:57:00 +0000

All I can say is that my husband and I agree 99% on the way we’ve raised our 11 kids. I think what it all comes down to, spanking or not, is being the parent and teaching respect, and not trying to be your kids’ best friend.

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 03:18:00 +0000

In reply to mimbles. Aww, thanks.

By: mimbles

mimbles — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 03:16:00 +0000

I have so much love for you both for this 🙂

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 03:09:00 +0000

In reply to Choleesa. Sticks don't kill piñatas, people kill piñatas...or is that saying for guns?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 02:31:00 +0000

I don’t think I spanked too often but your right, it really is not necessary.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 01:02:00 +0000

He’s a gem, alright. I think like you do.. it’s not alright to hit our kids but at the same time I have to admit there were times that I did.. though only when it was a major attention-getter and not out of general irritation or frustration. It had to be REALLY important to get their attention. Fast forward many years and I have had discussions with my now-adult sons. They both swear that I have never hit them.. ever. What was a major trauma for me.. “I slapped my son’s butt!” didn’t even land on their discipline radar. They remember my verbal ways of dealing with things.. and nothing worse.

By: Choleesa

Choleesa — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 23:23:00 +0000

In reply to Mona AlvaradoFrazier. Haha!! or the weak that carry a stick!! Im all for the Pinata by the way!

By: Junebug

Junebug — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 23:20:00 +0000

In our adoption paperwork we had to sign that we would not spank. Non-issue for us. However, it does spark my own issue of adoptive parents being held to a completely different and higher level than biological parents. The government trusts me to have the child but obviously not to be able to do research and come to a reasonable solution like you and your husband.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 21:07:00 +0000

Times are different now….when I grew up we were spanked with a belt,hand, wooden spoon, soap in the mouth….and just the threat sometimes was enough. I on occasion when my daughter was little swatted (sounds better) her but time out worked for her and really had very little discipline to do. Good topic!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:39:00 +0000

I may disagree with where you guys landed, but I think you guys handled this so well!! I seriously commend you on this conflict resolution!!

I have heard the arguments for not spanking, however, ask anyone in Finnland how the non-spanking/lack of discipline goes. I recently heard a parent from there quite frustrated with the societal outcome. I would like to caveat this: if you discipline any manner in anger, it is done wrong. PERIOD. It is possible to do it properly and controlled.

By: Mona AlvaradoFrazier

Mona AlvaradoFrazier — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:31:00 +0000

In reply to Choleesa. that the strong get candy