Comments on: My Gynecologist Dumped Me

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 14:28:00 +0000

It is usually I who fire my doctors, but your doctor did you a favor even though it may not seem like it now. Being chronically ill, I started off with a perinatologist and they are the better way to go.

I had a very scary delivery. (Not trying to scare you) but my whole labor was just two hours long. No one was ready for it. It was like out of “E.R.” I was nine centimeters dilated and the cord was wrapped around my baby’s neck. They lost his heartbeat. They could not do a C-section b/c he was too far down. My doctor had to use a vacuum and forceps to get him out ASAP. I had a third degree tear, but my son was just fine. Sometimes I wonder if the outcome would have been different if I had a less skilled doctor.

Trust me a perinatologist is the best way to go. I had a practice full of them and did not know who would deliver my baby. Some of them I only saw once, so no relationships were developed. It didn’t matter. I just thank God I had the doctor I had.

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 21:14:00 +0000

In reply to Heather. Sending you hugs. I've been through a few break ups with friends and boy oh boy can they hurt.

By: Heather

Heather — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 20:39:00 +0000

Hope your new doc it fantastic – it’s all about the little person;) I’m currently going through a tearful breakup with a friend and it sucks. There’s never anything good about saying goodbye…

By: VM Sehy Photography

VM Sehy Photography — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 02:50:00 +0000

I can see why this would be upsetting, but I think she did the right thing. You don’t want to be giving birth any sooner than you have to. If you need a specialist, then I’m impressed that she’s able to recognize this and to tell you. More doctors should check their egos at the door. Sounds like she’s a great doctor, so she’s probably got you set up with a great doctor as well. I think this will be what’s best for you and the baby. Hope you have cheered up some.

By: Nessa

Nessa — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 12:00:00 +0000

I am so sorry. I can imagine this change is so hard when you want everything to be nice and normal.

By: carma

carma — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 05:14:00 +0000

Well, that sucks, but she did the right thing. Now, get on with that self-medicating. I recommend chocolate syrup.

By: Snugglewasteland

Snugglewasteland — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 02:27:00 +0000

Sorry you have to see a new doctor. I know how difficult it is to find an ob/gyn you really like and trust. (It can be more difficult than finding a good hairdresser.) I hope the new dr. is wonderful.

By: Tracie

Tracie — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 02:18:00 +0000

Definitely upsetting to hear -especially when one is hormonal – LOL.
I give your doctor alot of credit for realizing she has limits – most of them think they are all that and a bag of chips. Kudos that she put your safety and your baby’s first.
She probably contacted the new doctor ahead of time to see if your pregnancy fell more into her speciality. It absolutely sucks that your pregnancy is dubbed as serious but maybe this doctor has the experience to treat your pregnancy optimally.
Good Luck!!!! Who knows maybe you will like her/him instantly 🙂

By: AVCr8teur

AVCr8teur — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 01:28:00 +0000

She was honest and called to let you down gently. Sounds like she’s referred you to an expert who could help you. My father-in-law’s doctor is past the age of retirement, but he doesn’t know when to quit or refer his patients to someone who knows better. When he could not diagnose my father-in-law’s health problem, he just told him it’s old age and he’ll have to live with it. We got a second opinion and luckily caught his illness in-time.

By: Ttownsend

Ttownsend — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 22:07:00 +0000

Well that sucks. Kick a Mami when she’s down…damn! I’m sorry. Enjoy your ice cream. I prefer Ben and Jerry’s Cherry Garcia.

By: Nezzy

Nezzy — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 19:47:00 +0000

I sure hate it that ya can’t stick with the Doc your used to but it is for the best for you and baby. I know you already know that so grab a big spoon and dig in baby!!!

Know I’m prayin’ that you find the perfect fit in your pregnancy specialist. God bless ya and have a marvelous day!!!

By: Oscar

Oscar — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 18:43:00 +0000

Thats a good thing she did for you. No reason she can’t consult. I’d ask. Have her refer the more difficult work and let her present results. Like an OB/GYN specialist.

You don’t go to your Family doctor for shoulder surgery…..

You havn’t lost anyone. You have only experianced someone expressing thier concern.

By: Oscar

Oscar — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 18:43:00 +0000

Thats a good thing she did for you. No reason she can’t consult. I’d ask. Have her refer the more difficult work and let her present results. Like an OB/GYN specialist.

You don’t go to your Family doctor for shoulder surgery…..

You havn’t lost anyone. You have only experianced someone expressing thier concern.

By: Oscar

Oscar — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 18:43:00 +0000

Thats a good thing she did for you. No reason she can’t consult. I’d ask. Have her refer the more difficult work and let her present results. Like an OB/GYN specialist.

You don’t go to your Family doctor for shoulder surgery…..

You havn’t lost anyone. You have only experianced someone expressing thier concern.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 17:36:00 +0000

So sorry to hear this but I agree that it is the best for the baby. You have been through so much already. I know you don’t want to be is considered serious and I totally would have cried too. Keeping you in my prayers. I wish there was more I could do to calm your nerves. ((HUGS))

By: lynn

lynn — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 15:20:00 +0000

Tough break for you! I find though that my break ups, especially lovers, ended up being a gift at the end. I hope that happens for you in this case!

By: Lifeisaphoenix

Lifeisaphoenix — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 15:03:00 +0000

Oh, no! You poor dear! I can imagine that’s difficult. At least she was a good enough doctor to do the right thing for you. Bless you!

By: BLOGitse

BLOGitse — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 15:00:00 +0000

I’m sorry and happy for you.
Sorry about the break up but happy your doctor is honest and wants your best. That’s a LOT today.
I’m in Helsinki – taking care of family business issues – so nothing ‘wrong’ with me! 🙂
It’s been snowing the whole morning – have to go out and shoot some pics to prove…

By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 13:09:00 +0000

That stinks!!! I’m sorry you’re having this added stress under an already stressful situation. Big {Hugs} Mami! Praying for you!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 12:44:00 +0000

Very good writing reminding us there are so many different types of break ups. And yes, they hurt. In the case of your OB/GYN, I am sure it was a tough decision for her but she seems to have your best interests at heart. Intellectually you understand her position and you accept that your pregnancy requires extra care but emotionally you just want to have a normal pregnancy and relationship with your doctor. Bummer. What flavor did you buy in your self medication? You could come here to Nebraska to the 22F temp this morning, you can soak in the comfy tub and eat chocolate chip ice cream cones.