Comments on: I Comment Therefore I Am

By: Marlaahansen

Marlaahansen — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 03:02:00 +0000

forgiving the unforgivable….

I did it for me, not for them. “Not forgiving is like drinking poison and then waiting for the other person to die.” I think Mark Twain said that. I know it was true in my case. I wasn’t hurting them but I was killing me. I’m worth more than that. So are you.

I love you, Mami but you already know that. 🙂

By: Eva Gallant

Eva Gallant — Sun, 07 Nov 2010 14:00:00 +0000

It shows that you have a lot of compassion–that you were able to speak up for others when you didn’t for yourself.

By: VM Sehy Photography

VM Sehy Photography — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 04:53:00 +0000

Your comment about the bullying reminded me of one of my workplace experiences. I was being sexually harrassed by one of the other employees. Not physically, he’d just sit real close and say gross things. So I finally told my boss and said I’m going to have to sue the employee. My boss said you can’t, you have to sue me. Oh. However, my boss let me know that I was not the only person being harrassed. So that made me feel better. He said he’d do something about it. Well, the employee did not get fired until after I left. (I had signed up to go abroad, so it wasn’t over the harrassment.) When I got back, my friend that worked there told me they had fired him. When that happened, he went out to his car and got a gun. Another employee went out to talk him down and got a gun in his face for his trouble. Even after that, the person turned on themselves and threatened suicide. Finally, the other employee talked them down and got them to leave. Glad I avoided that drama.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 18:39:00 +0000

That pumpkin from your previous post was so funny!!

By: Betty Manousos

Betty Manousos — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 17:03:00 +0000

I can relate to that forgiveness thing.

If to forgive is divine, how come it’s so hard for us to do??
Great post as usual. 🙂

B xx

By: unknownmami

unknownmami — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 15:55:00 +0000

In reply to Auntnikki12. I don't mention her very often because technically she is not mine. She belongs to my BIL who lives with us, but I end up spending more time with her than he does and she sleeps with my husband and me. She is a chihuahua and jack russell terrier mix. She is very mellow and nice. I met her during my last pregnancy, which was really difficult and she took great care of me, never leaving my side.

By: Auntnikki12

Auntnikki12 — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 15:24:00 +0000

Last time I was here, I totally missed your irrational fear of ordering pizza for delivery. How unusual! I love that though. Quirky!

What kind of dog do you have? You’ve been mentioning your dog more lately, and I don’t remember you doing that before so I’m curious!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 12:54:00 +0000

The ability to defend yourself and understand where your boundaries are being disrespected takes time and work to learn. It took me such a long time to see these things with my eyes wide open and then it took even more work to deal with it in a mature way and not retaliate.

By: Kristin & Megan

Kristin & Megan — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 06:37:00 +0000

I totally hate ordering pizza and I have no rational reason. HA!

By: betty

betty — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 05:21:00 +0000

that is interesting you can’t order a pizza for delivery. there was a time when I was the “queen” in doing so, so much that when I went into the actual shop to pick up the pizza they commented “oh you are the one that lives on so and so drive” (because I tipped very well)

I understand the forgiveness thing and I struggle with that myself. I should know better especially at this stage of the game and the age of those I need to forgive but when they said something (even if it was out of ignorance and they didn’t really think of what they said) but to me it was unforgiveable, I do struggle with forgiving, let God forgave me. Such a dicotomy I am

hope you are well

betty

By: Sandra

Sandra — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 04:35:00 +0000

I wouldn’t say that I necessarily give good comment, but I give good other stuff…well, that’s what my husband says, but he kind of has to.

By: AwayWeGoNancy

AwayWeGoNancy — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 03:51:00 +0000

I’m terrified of using the telephone, period.

By: Modernmom

Modernmom — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 03:22:00 +0000

I recently had a run in with an adult bully. It is so true that girl who bully grow up to be women who bully. Some kids never grow up, sigh.

By: brian miller

brian miller — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 02:22:00 +0000

nice. that was a great one by ladyfi…thought provoking…willl check out your other friends…

By: BLOGitse

BLOGitse — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 01:26:00 +0000

I don’t waste my time and energy – I forgive and forget.

ps. it seems that redirecting problem came partly from SIMC Linky tools – people don’t have that problem anymore…Interesting…

By: macey

macey — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 23:48:00 +0000

My husband can NOT order food over the phone. He can do it in person, he can do it at the drive thru…but on the phone is a negatory.

By: Lifeisaphoenix

Lifeisaphoenix — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 23:23:00 +0000

I have trouble with forgiveness, too, but only sometimes. On some ocassions it comes easy -ish. Then sometimes I can’t do it and it lingers. It can be the same thing, too. No rhyme or reason.

By: rebecca

rebecca — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:55:00 +0000

I had a bully issue at work. It was awful and if I was smart I would have stood up for myself, instead I ended up quitting the job a few months into it. I still have nightmares about her. (She was a teacher and I was a paraprofessional for her and a group of 6 other teachers). Two of the teachers did go to the principal and tell her that I was being treated VERY unfairly and after I quit one of the teachers did resign after she completed that year and she got a job elsewhere. I love how that teacher stood up for me by resigning her position.

By: lisleman

lisleman — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:23:00 +0000

Is the pizza thing related somehow to the language bully thing?
I don’t know why there are assholes and jerks out there but unfortunately we all run into them. Your story reminded me of an asshole at one job I had. It did help to learn that other people found problems with the jerk too.

Knowing how to speak multiple languages is a great achievement and I know you have benefited from it with some of your work. It’s good to know you are a good example to your child.

By: lisleman

lisleman — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:15:00 +0000

In reply to unknownmami. i had the redirect problem yesterday but today it's fine no problem it stays on the her post page. I'm using a mac with firefox. strange problem