If you come to my house in the next two days you will feel like you hit the mother lode. Oh you won’t be rich in gold or silver, but you will be up to your neck in mothers. You see both my mother and my mother in law will be here and since I’m a mother I guess you can throw me in the mix too.
My mother and my MIL have never met. I’m sure it will be fine, but I’m still a little scared. Mostly, I’m scared of me and my hormonal reactions. I’m not the most patient of people.
You wanna know a sure fired way to piss me off? Tell me to do something other than what I am doing when I’m trying to put my toddler to bed and she is having a melt down. Unless you are from the TV show “The Nanny” and I asked you to come into my home and give me advice, it probably isn’t wise to step into the middle of things. I’m just saying…even if you are my mother, it’s probably not a good time to tell me what to do.
I’m glad that my MIL is coming for a visit. She lives in Hawaii and I’ve only seen her in person once before (Unknown Papi and I have been together for 10 years). She is grieving the loss of a loved one. It pains me to think of what she has been through and how lonely she must feel. Life and death can really kick you in the butt at times. I’m happy that she decided to get away and come and spend some time with her granddaughters.
I did a bad thing. We do not have a garage. We have to park on the street, which means we have to move the car for street cleaning. I forgot to move the car for street cleaning. Argh!!! This is the second ticket in one month. We got the first one on February 3rd when we couldn’t move the car because we were having a baby.
You wanna know another way to piss me off? Tell me that I just wasted $50 of money we could really use for other things. No shit, Sherlock! It’s not like I did it on purpose. I’ve just been a little busy birthing, keeping kids alive, and not sleeping. And no, neither my husband nor my mother are named Sherlock, but you get the point.
Do you get the sense that maybe I’m a tiny bit testy?
And now your Friday Fortune Cookie (don’t forget to add “in bed” at the end, if you are so inclined):
Don’t mess with a tired, sleep-deprived Mami!
I hope the plethora of mothers will make things easier for you and not cause you more stress. Whatever Sherlock says, just remember that a parking ticket will soon be forgotten….what you are doing taking care of your family will last forever.
I hope the extra moms can give you some good nap time. If I lived closer, I would love to come over and babysit for you while you and Unknown Papi went out on a date, or while you went for a massage, or a mani, or a hot fudge sundae!
Your friends are right about tickets and family. They don’t even come close!
Is there any way to contest the ticket (you know, in all your spare time, now that you have 2 kids)? Surely they would understand the importance of having a baby over moving one’s car!
I hope that, with the extra moms there, you can catch up on some rest!
Guess no one will be able to say, “Que poca madre!” 🙂
Try to get some rest while the mamis are there. And let them spoil you. You deserve it! 🙂
This probably has nothing to do with your post topic but today I enjoyed watching some old “Mothers Of Invention” clips on youtube. It was a nice weird trip back in time for me.
Oh I would never bother anyone in the middle of changing a diaper since they have a dangerous weapon at hand.
GREAT post! I hope all goes well with your Mom and MIL. Hopefully, it will be helpful BOTH of them being there together. Bummer about the ticket(s). Anyhow, I hope you and the new baby and the family are adjusting nicely! And hopefully your resting…!?! Have a fabulous Friday.
The key to this could be to hand over all infants to the care of their loving grandmothers while you take a well-earned break. (Now if it was me? I’d be cooking and cleaning for Britain, just trying to keep everyone happy and comfy…behaviour which could explain why I ended up bursting a blood vessel in my head)! Seriously…. Follow Plan A. It’s going to be especially lovely for your MIL to be around new young lives at an otherwise sad time. Relax and enjoy their help.
How exciting to see your MIL again! I hope it all goes well. Sorry about that ticket, they should make special allowances for new mommies. No fair!
Hopefully having your mom and MIL there to help out will make it a little easier and not stressful!
I HATE when people try to tell me how to parent my children. It even bothers me when my husband tries to. They are your children, you know what works and what doesn’t and you know what you feel like doing! Try not to let it get you down.
Sorry about the tickets. Wish there was a way to get out of the first one. {If it makes you feel better, we’ve wasted about $10,000 that we couldn’t afford on my husband’s DUI that happened almost a year ago. We’re still paying on it, but it’s stressful when you look at the $200 you’re paying out of each pay check that could go to other bills or groceries or something, but can’t…}
Can you contest the ticket? Explain why you couldn’t move it! Surely they are going to understand yo were HAVING A BABY!!!
All the best with having both mothers in the house… rather you than me!
I would not like it at all…. imagine hearing “in my day we did it like this” and “You really should….”… UgggggH!
Maybe you will be lucky and they will be LOVELY to have around.
I will be thinking of you.
My daughter had her baby girl on Monday just gone… textbook delivery, perfect wee baby. I got to be there and help out… and saw my newest grandbaby born. It was so special.
I hope your testy-ness departs soon. 🙂
Good luck dealing with the mother lode!
Wait! Can’t you protest the ticket? I mean, having a baby is a pretty good excuse and you have evidence!
I can’t believe youhave only hung out with your mil once in ten years! And that your mother and mil have never met. I hope you all have a great time. Start making a list of which cupboards they can clean out when they get bored!
Oh, mama, that will be a lot of mamas. I pray for your strength. My mother and I get along fabulously, but MIL and I are on very different pages and it tests my strength sometimes. Hopefully all those mamas waiting to get their hands on a baby will get you some much needed sleep!!!
My hubby has been getting tickets on college campus. It’s not the same as “I forgot”, although I understand how awfully cold it’s been. I have yet to say anything, but….
Maybe they will get on with each other and take the pressure off you and it will be much less stressful than you expect.
Hope it will be fun with all those mums in your house!
Can you get a dismissal on those tix?? I mean, come on!
hang in there mami!!! i know how that goes and it sure is rough! i do hope you don’t stumble upon more unsolicited advice, that chaps my hide too 😉
I hope one of the extra mothers will let you get some sleep!
That’s a lot of moms in one house all at the same time. I yiyi– I do not envy you Mami. Maybe this would be a good time for you to have some “me” time out of the house 🙂
Seriously, I know that’s not possible but hang in there. I’m sure the love will be flowing and babies will be happy to have all the grandmas there to fuss over them. Fingers crossed.
xo jj
I’m with you on the telling me what to do (ever) especially if I’m in the middle of doing something else. Hope the mama chaos relieves some of your stress, or at least not add to it.
When is a good time to tell someone what to do? I say never. Unless someone asks for advice, don’t give it is my motto. Of course, it is different in blogland. By writing a post we are open to comments, suggestions, criticism, and lo and behold, advice. It will be an interesting situation to have a place for your MIL to visit and grieve and feel loved and all of you getting in each others way. I am sending you my best wishes for you to enjoy having your mom and your MIL there at the same time and for all of you to rejoice in the two beautiful children in your family.
Regarding moving the car for street cleaning, I so sympathize with you as a new mom with a toddler. We have learned to make signs to remind us about trash day. I have a calendar, a regular old fashioned wall calendar that I write on and highlight trash day. It is also on the calendar in the computer. James uses the computer calendar more than I do, except that I use it as reminder of chores or bills to pay. But it helps me to be sitting at my computer, glance at the calendar and remind myself it is Sunday night and time to put the trash container at the street. Our trash is picked up every other Monday morning really early. I hope you have a wonderful visit with all you moms together. Maybe you could ask the moms if they would help with moving the car while they are there.
I would be happy if I could come visit you and the lovely mothers as well.
Happy weekend!
B xx
In the town where I used to live and where my grown kids live we had the sweeper issue. I wasted so much money paying those dang tickets. Then my daughter became the civilian officer that gave out the tickets. She always gave me notice and she was so sweet and warned just about everyone before she wrote a ticket.
Wow; Mother and MIL and new Mother that could be explosive! I hope you just take a few deep breaths USE them while they are there and sleep and just let them do things the way they do. You can put it all back your way when they leave. It is better than confrontation. (do you think I have experience here)? 5 kids…4 of whom have kids and in-laws…my daughters have had plenty of MIL meltdowns.
Try to have a peaceful week:)
Sucks about the ticket but congrats…big congrats on the new little one!!!!!!!!! And have a wonderful visit with your MIL and mom. Take lots of pics!
Oh my gosh! I am praying for you! Seriously! I know everything will be ok!
I hope you managed to stay sane with a house full of mothers.
Take care of yourself and your precious girls.
I won’t tell you ANYTHING. I’ll just give you lots of hugs. {{{{{hugs}}}}}