Usually, I am extremely resistant to change, but for some reason I am really open to it right now.
I watch the ripples change their size
But never leave the stream
Of warm impermanence
So the days float through my eyes
But still the days seem the same
And these children that you spit on
As they try to change their worlds
Are immune to your consultations
They’re quite aware of what they’re going through
But never leave the stream
Of warm impermanence
So the days float through my eyes
But still the days seem the same
And these children that you spit on
As they try to change their worlds
Are immune to your consultations
They’re quite aware of what they’re going through
-David Bowie, Changes
I went ahead and bought https://byclaudya.com/ so that I could get rid of the blogspot in my url. I know! It’s like I expect to be doing this blogging thing for awhile.
Then I went and got myself a new email unknownmami@gmail.com. I had resisted it for the longest time because my regular email is on yahoo and I don’t want to change and who needs to check so many emails, but guess what? I can have all the emails forwarded to yahoo and I can even reply with the gmail address from yahoo. Who knew?
I went to the “temp” job I’ve been going to where I’m allowed to bring Put Pie and I was told that I might be able to work there for a whole year. Apparently, there is a program funded by the City of San Francisco specifically geared to mom’s returning to work. My job can’t afford to hire me for a year, but if I qualify for the program the city will pay for it! Wish me luck. (Proof again that the Universe is abundant. I never fail to be amazed at the things that find me.)
Okay, I am giving myself a challenge. From now until October 30th I am going to exercise EVERY.SINGLE.DAY! Yup that’s right. Now don’t get all worried. I’m talking about 20 minutes a day. Not much, but more than I currently manage. How am I making myself accountable, you ask? Good question! Well, I’m using you for one, I’ll keep you posted every Friday. Big deal, you say. Oh ye of little faith, there is more. For everyday that I do not exercise, I will be charging myself five dollars and at the end of my challenge if I have paid for not exercising I will use the money to finance a micro-loan to an entrepreneur through Kiva. (If you haven’t heard of Kiva, please check them out. You can do a lot of good with as little as $25 and it’s not a donation, it’s a loan so you can loan it to someone else when it gets paid back.)
I came to a realization this week that I spend far too much time in front of the computer. My beautiful daughter has taken to screeching when she sees me go for the laptop. I am ashamed and I realize that I need to limit myself. I have decided that her time is her time and I shouldn’t continually try to sneak “my time” into her time. I enjoy my online life and do not want to stop, but I will either have to get up early or wait until she has gone to sleep. I really do feel bad that she has had to find a way to tell me without words how much she hates it when Mami’s face is pointed at the computer. Today, I really made an effort (it’s hard, it’s an addiction) and it really paid off. It was even easier to put her to bed. She is the most beautiful thing in my life and deserves the best of me; I intend on giving it to her.
Have a beautiful weekend!
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unknownmami says
Alicia @ One Mum’s Musings
said…
– Congrats on joining the dot com community.- Fingers crossed about the job.- I’ll be watching for your exercise posts. Love the payment idea.-
I am exactly the same with my internet habits. I think it really is an
addiction. I have to limit my usage to when the kids are asleep aswell.
October 8, 2009 10:24 PM
BoufMom9
said…
Good for you making all of these major changes in your life! i need to do the same thing about exercising! DESPERATELY.Good for you making more time for your daughter as well (and good for her!)Happy friday!
October 8, 2009 10:25 PM
Traci
said…
You go, girl! You know that you are my inspiration. Fingers crossed on
the job and the exercising (and puttng down the computer(. I am
strugging with all those issues myself.
October 8, 2009 10:37 PM
thatgirlblogs
said…
my kids have each complained to me about the computer, I completely understand.
October 8, 2009 11:16 PM
cinner
said…
I understand, I am committing to the 20 minutes of exercising as of the
morning. I try not to spend too much time on the computer. Doing wedding
slides right now and getting a slide ready for a lady that is planning
her own funeral, she wants to be pprepared. I am feeling a little
overwhelmed….I do hope your job works out, fingers crossed. take care.
October 9, 2009 1:38 AM
Mom of Three
said…
Your little darling deserves your time. Although I have to say, I know
the addiction and I’m guilty of the same thing. I take lots of breaks in
between to play though… so it takes me forever to write a post. Or
read a post. ;-)I am all for your exercise program! I’ll be your exercise buddy! I’ve been meaning to start. And yes, the universe IS abundant! May you richly receive its blessings!
October 9, 2009 2:00 AM
Sara Elizabeth Bonds
said…
Congrats on the dot com and new email!I need to take the same challenge and work out. Argh!I
know what you mean about the computer. If we had kids, I would probably
close my blogs down in all honesty. They take up so much of my time
that I cannot imagine I would be paying enough attention to my kids as
much as I am on. I give you props for making that change to give your
daughter more of yourself.
October 9, 2009 2:18 AM
Jayne
said…
You’re absolutely right about getting hooked on the internet – it’s all too easy to while away an alarming amount of time.Sounds
like great news about the job. I hope it all works out for you. It’s
probably coming about precisely *because* you have opened up your world
to the possibility of change. Good for you. 🙂
October 9, 2009 2:22 AM
4 Lettre Words
said…
Congrats on the job opportunity and good luck with the exercising!
October 9, 2009 3:38 AM
Tammy Howard
said…
My screen saver says: Never let that which matters the least take time
from that which matters the most. Just sayin’. I hear ya loud and
clear.This is by far the best exercise vow I have ever heard/read. This is as win/win as it gets.You rock the Casbah, Miss Domain-ownin’ Mami.
October 9, 2009 3:41 AM
michelle
said…
Yes. The universe is abundant.That’s awesome about the job.I promised my kids I’d only blog before 7a.m. and after 9p.m. HarumpfHave a great weekend
October 9, 2009 3:42 AM
mommytoalot
said…
Stopping by from Mrs. 444’s blog.Good luck with the exercising..i so desperately need to get into shape. Great news about the job too.enjoy your weekend
October 9, 2009 5:21 AM
Ocean Girl
said…
I so look forward to your exercise posts. I have a feeling they are going to be funnniie – please don’t get me wrong 🙂
October 9, 2009 5:30 AM
brainella
said…
Good luck with the exercising. I have good intentions and you know where that leads… 🙂
October 9, 2009 7:40 AM
Lisa Anne
said…
I need to start exercising too. I keep telling myself I’ll start
tomorrow, but this blog stuff just consumes me. I need to find out how
to take the blogspot out of my URL too!
October 9, 2009 8:02 AM
Joanna Jenkins
said…
What an awesome exercise challenge! And congrats on “owning” your name.I left you something on my blog.See you Sunday.xo
October 9, 2009 9:05 AM
Brian Miller
said…
best wishes for all the changes…i have to put the laptop down at
times…my boys usually let me know when. have a marvelous weekend!
October 9, 2009 9:05 AM
Betty
said…
Good for you!! I´m so glad for your daughter!!
October 9, 2009 9:59 AM
Stacy (the Random Cool Chick)
said…
Change can be a good thing! 🙂 Congrats on joining the dot-com genre (I
have one, too, but haven’t clicked that thingy to make it coordinate
with Blogger because Blogger makes me nervous with all their snafus…I
see it’s working for yours, though, so I think I can click now! *grin!*)
Keeping my fingers crossed on your job – hope it works out perfectly! :)Good luck with the workout challenge – I love your idea, and like Tammy said, it’s definitely a win/win! :)These
moments with your beautiful little one are fleeting – so definitely
take them when you can get them…if that means stepping away from the
computer, that’s exactly what you need to do. Your bloggy friends
totally understand (especially because most of us have ‘been there’ and
are there at times) and we’ll be here whenever you are! :)Happy FF! 🙂
October 9, 2009 10:03 AM
Yelena R.
said…
Congrats on the .com address! That’s so exciting! Also, good luck with
your job and have a wonderful weekend as well. Oh, also I have some
shots for “Sundays in my City” so I will probably contribute this week
🙂
October 9, 2009 10:33 AM
The girl with the flour in her hair
said…
My kids act up twice as much when I’m on the computer. The baby wants to
be held twice as much when I sit at the computer. I’m also working on
limiting my time. It’s so freakin’ hard!
October 9, 2009 10:49 AM
Green-Eyed Momster
said…
I feel guilt about computer time too. Especially now that I’m not
working. I should be putting makeup on so that I can go out and run
errands today. Yet, I sit here and type and read blogs.Hope you have a super weekend. I have my fingers crossed about the job for you. Big hugs!!
October 9, 2009 11:04 AM
lisleman
said…
thanks for the kiva info – I’ll check that out.all the best
October 9, 2009 11:14 AM
2 Toddlers and Me
said…
Congrats on the dotcom. It looks so professional! I debated about the
email too and you’re right it really isn’t that difficult to suck
everything into one account. Congrats on the job opportunity! How
wonderful! I had a hard time for awhile balancing this blogging
thing with spending time with the kids. It just feels like there is not
enough time in the day, that’s for sure! Sounds like you’ve made the
right choice though and everyone will be happier for it. Although,
getting up earlier has never made me happy. 🙂
October 9, 2009 11:40 AM
MrsSki
said…
Best of luck with the new exercise program! I have heard of Kiva and it’s a very cool concept!I’ve
thought about going .com but I don’t think I have enough readers to
make it worth it although I would like to do it now because my blog name
is still available…decisions, decisions.I love gmail, congrats on your new gmail account!I hope you are approved for the working moms programs…that sounds awesome!
October 9, 2009 11:51 AM
♥georgie♥
said…
so keeping my fingers crossed for you on the job-front!Your precious lil one must come first…they grow up TOO fasthope you have a wonderful weekend!
October 9, 2009 2:32 PM
Crazee Juls
said…
How cool that you can bring your little one along… too cool I think, and
congrats on joining the world of .com’ers 🙂 I wonder if I’ll ever do
that? I don’t know where to begin. Anyhoo… have a great weekend!
October 9, 2009 2:41 PM
!!The Obnoxious SAHM!!
said…
my friend, my kids have the same reaction about my lap top. they have
even gone as far as drawling mean pictures about me and the laptop. LOL i am a horrible mother.
October 9, 2009 3:41 PM
Amy Amy Bo Bamey
said…
Thanks for reminding me about Kiva….been wanting to check that out.I just switched my blog over to a .com too. Gotta open up a gmail acct too. Have a Great Weekend!
October 9, 2009 3:54 PM
Jenni Jiggety
said…
My kids have been known to gently close the laptop lid on my fingers as I type…
October 9, 2009 4:35 PM
Mrs4444
said…
You touched me with your realization of needing to get your priorities
in order. Our children are blessings; we need to give them everything we
can while they are living with us, and I know your pain of setting that
boundary. It’s tough! I wish you luck. Luckily, she’s easy to turn to
when you turn away from the computer. Still, I wish I could babysit for
you 🙂
October 9, 2009 5:31 PM
blueviolet
said…
I think it’s a wonderful thing that you took the time to be with your
daughter instead of online. Isn’t that how we all should be? Ok, not me
because I don’t have little ones. I have all the time in the world to be
online, lolI so hope you get the funding for that job!
October 9, 2009 5:43 PM
Michelle
said…
Wow those are a lot of changes. I’m with you on the computer thing. My
rule is that if they’re on (awake, around), the computer isn’t. Unless
I’m working, and they know they cna’t bother me when I’m working.And speaking of which — congrats on your job (almost). Fingers crossed for you!
October 9, 2009 6:01 PM
Kris
said…
It is hard to stay away from the computer I know!! It’s so worth it though. Congrats on the job and good luck!
October 9, 2009 6:39 PM
Bee and Rose
said…
I am thinking of taking the .com plunge myself:)You are totally inspiring me to get off my tushy and move it! 20 min is just what I need!Thanks for reminding me that the Universe really is abundant and that sometimes we just need to open ourselves to that!
October 9, 2009 6:53 PM
badmommymoments
said…
I came to a similar realization in terms of my girls and my “time” on
the computer. It’s a hard addiction to break, but like you said,
definitely worth it. You can do it! (And then please pass along some
pointers.)
October 9, 2009 7:07 PM
Drahdrah
said…
We are living parallel lives on some levels. My 14 month old often
screeches when I’m on the computer too ! I’ve been more conscious of it
and am limiting my online time too. I am sure the job will come
through. Like you said, the world is abundant, we just have to open our
eyes. I love the idea about KIVA. I’ve heard of it, and will look
into it. I think I can afford to loan someone 25$. Incredible how
little can make a huge difference to someone in need !
October 9, 2009 7:31 PM
Margo
said…
You are very wise. And it sounds to me as if you know yourself and your world, and are making fabulous changes!
October 9, 2009 8:09 PM
Mama Kat
said…
Boy you’ve been busy this week!! I’m glad you bought your domain! 🙂 You’re officially official. Congratulations!
October 9, 2009 8:16 PM
Helen McGinn
said…
I really hope you get the job funded for the year; sending you all the good karma I can. I
don’t watch much tv and, although I like to read, it isn’t ever quiet
enough round hear so the computer is my outlet but, like you, I’m
limiting it as the kids like me to be vacant as opposed to the ‘in a
minute…’ state of mind I can get into when sitting in front of this
little square box. :O)
October 10, 2009 3:41 AM
Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com
said…
Good luck on the exercise challenge!You have a lovely blog. I’d love ifwe both followed each other.Have a wonderful weekend!P.S.I found you through Steven Antony’s blog.
October 10, 2009 4:15 AM
Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com
said…
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.I’m your new follower:)Thanks for following!Happy weekend !
October 10, 2009 1:56 PM
Charlotte
said…
I am really, really, proud of you. On your own site, exercising and monkey time. good work!!
October 10, 2009 2:06 PM
panamamama
said…
Awesome changes! Good luck with the new job and .com! I am trying to
change too so we’ll see if I get it done. Also trying to start a
translating company but really dragging my heels…
October 10, 2009 6:39 PM