Old friends get together after many moments or years spent apart and reminisce about the past. They remind each other of this and that, laugh at memories that one holds and the other had forgotten…
“Oh, my GAWD! I never would have thought of that ever again if you hadn’t reminded me. But do you remember the time…”
And it’s all good and fun unless it becomes the only way that you relate to each other anymore and then you really don’t want to start another conversation with “Do you remember when…” because of course you do remember since that’s all you ever talk about with each other and the laughter just doesn’t come as naturally and then you want to say…
“Do you remember when we met and didn’t used to talk about our shared past, but instead built a present that led to a future?”
Plus other people get totally bored listening to old friends telling war stories. Really it’s not that interesting or funny if you weren’t there.
And if you are my friend and we’ve recently had a conversation about our past, I am SO NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU or us because we totally had other things to talk about and the laughter we shared was totally genuine.
This post was inspired by Magpie Tales: dinner conversations by Brian Miller.
Great 🙂
do you remember the time I left a comment and you did a post about it. OMG that was good. I love old stories and many are worth repeating.
Well, many of my blog posts are just old stories rehashed.
Remember when I used to do weekly posts that were just made up of comments? Then I had another kid and it was just too much work.
Your kids will appreciate (might be awhile for the feedback) your priority choice.
I recently gathered with some old friends and was so happy that we didn’t get stuck on the “Remember when” train (although it can be fun in its own way). It had been so long since we’d all seen each other that there was a lot to catch up on with the present.
Oh it can be super fun, it’s just nice to know you can move beyond it.
🙂
Saturday i’m afraid many conversations at my reunion started with “remember when…?” But because we have been getting together regularly, we are creating present history too.
Funny, I was just reading your post when you were over here. Oh, it is totally understandable to go down memory road, but you guys are also getting together more often now, which is awesome.
OMG – I was just about this with my friend today. That is so freaky…
You know I’m Useless Psychic, right?
Hey Claudya! It’s said that the best friends can be gone for years, and when you see them you pick up where you left off. This is true. Remember the past, but act in the present. Indigo x
see i told you i would be back…smiles….it is an honor…smiles.
like i explained to someone the other day…this was about the fact we just cant live in the past, but have o make new memories…so your question there at the end , same as you left in my comments is spot on…you got it…smiles.
I think I subconsciously fear this happening to me, so I avoid getting together with old, old friends. We are FB friends and that’s safe for me.
I recently went out to dinner with an old colleague. Other than what we remembered about our old job, (and after 30 years my memory was blurred,) we had absolutely nothing in common… On the other hand, I have some newer friends I’ve “met” through blogging and it feels like I’ve known them forever. Go figure!
I voted!!!