You know THAT person, the one that has no business sending you a friend request on facebook, but does anyway? The one that borrowed money and never paid it back/that broke your heart/that was a jerk/that returned your favorite dress all shrunken/that cheated on you/that always put you down/ that (fill in the blank)-ed you?
We all know THAT person, right? And we are not so bummed that we lost touch with them. We are in no desperate hurry to become “friends” again. That person sucks and we don’t want them in our life again, so we will just ignore that friend request thank you very much! The nerve of THAT person.
The thing is that sometimes, not often, but sometimes I’m THAT person. You figure THAT person doesn’t know that they are THAT person right? But sometimes, some of us do know we are THAT person.
How do we know? Oh we had an inkling even before we sent you that friend request. See the thing is we always liked you, we really did. It’s just that sometimes we can be insensitive jerks. It wasn’t on purpose or maybe sometimes it was, but most of the time it wasn’t. We’re sorry and we hope you have forgotten all about it.
So we send you that friend request and wait. And wait. And wait. And then we get it. We’re going to be waiting a mighty long time before you ever refer to us as a “friend” even on facebook.
Are we bummed? Absolutely! But we are also grateful. Grateful that you didn’t get back in touch with us just to rip us a new one. Grateful that in your own silent way you let us know that this time around we are THAT person. Are we mad? Not so much, just a little ashamed that we haven’t always been the best we can be to those we’ve come across.
I think there is no shame in admitting you have on occasion been THAT person. Hopefully, you’ve grown and stopped being THAT kind of person.
Be honest, have you ever been THAT person?
I still have a book I borrowed from my best friend in grade 2. She changed schools between grades 2 and 3 and I pretty much didn’t see her again after that. I feel guilty every time I see it.
I’m sure I’ve been that person since as well.
I hope I have never been THAT person, but I think it is hard to get through high school without being her:)
I think I have asked about 10 people to be my facebook friend….all 90 others have asked ME to be their friend. I am a bit of a wallflower…….
I definitely was but still didn’t think what I did was bad enough to NOT get added as a friend on FB! Especially with the person who I was THAT person with has my entire family as their friends lol.
I don’t know if I’ve already been her, if not, I’d certainly like to be THAT person one day 🙂 lol sounds crazy doesn’t it?
If I have been THAT person I don’t know it. But I bet I have.
“broke your heart … cheated on you…” I assume you mean romantic relationships that have gone bad. That is a most common event in growing up. I don’t think I was mean in any of the break-ups but they were long ago. I do think old flames can still burn you in the ass so I would be careful about re-establishing a relationship. But since I’m a guy, there’s a good chance I completely misunderstood your post – so never mind.
It’s not just about romantic exes, it’s about anyone who might not be too happy to hear from you.
Figures that I wouldn’t get it right. Reading other people has always been tougher than reading a book. But why would anyone not be happy to hear from a clown like me?
Some people just aren’t into the circus, my friend.
Hey they just released a movie about watering circus elephants – didn’t they?
I have always hoped to not be That person but I’m sure that I’ve been That person on an occasion or two and probably didn’t even realize I was being That, which makes me even more of That person because of…that.
Now I’m dizzy.
I try my best.. but definitily I have been in both sides… I used to feel sad, used, etc.. for what “THAT” person did to me. But it is up to me the way I feel. So I don’t waiste my time and energy thinking about other people’s mistakes; I concentrate in my behavior so I don’t have to be “THAT” person. Interesting post.
I think we’ve all been there, done that!
I never thought about it but now that I do.. I have been THAT person sometimes.. I think we all are THAT person at one point in our lifes
I don’t think I’ve been THAT person but in the past haven’t we all been THAT person on time or another.
WHO??? ME??? NEVER!!!!
Well, maybe that one time… but really that was it. REALLY!!! Okay, maybe twice…stop looking at me like that.
I’m leaving… Good Bye!
This is why I never make any friend request…
Oh, yeah! I’ve been THAT person plenty of times. It’s kinda sad when I send someone a request, someone I went to school with from kindergarten all the way through high school, and I get a message back “do I know you?” Well, apparently not! I’ve stopped sending people requests. If they know me and want to be friends, they’ll send me a request…
I refuse to answer this question honestly. 😛
I still cringe when i remember one of my college roommates giving me a funny look and saying “oh, i couldn’t live with you again.” when we talked abut the next years living assignments. What did i do?! I thought i was perfect!
I am so sure I have been that person. But I hope now I have grown and learned enough that I don’t have to be every worry about it. Now how many THATS did THAT post have? 🙂
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Funny.
I’m sure someone in this world thinks that I am that person. I don’t think any of us get through this life without hurting someone in some way, no matter how well intended we are.
Can’t imagine you as “that” person, however.
I believe I have been that person. Because of my weight over the last few years I keep myself kind of hidden. I have meet friends from the past, people I love and want to see.
I told them I want to meet with them, see them and go out to dinner. Some of those happened almost two years ago. I never followed through.
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I have been THAT person. Actually I was thinking about this, this week! lol. hey at least I think about it! Some people never acknowledge their faults and therefore can never overcome them!
Yes, I have been that person. There is one person that never accepts my request, but I keep on trying. Why? Who knows. We had a good friendship. I find it kind off childish that he still holds something against me. We all make mistakes, but we all grow up. I feel I should be allowed at least to apologise. Don’t want to be best buds, but hey, we ahve kids, they have kids, it would be nice to see how they all are. You know, jsut for old times sake.
And then the feeling passes and I know everyone makes descisions according to where they are in their life and it makes not difference to my life what they choose.
Love the post!
I’ve know many of THOSE people and unfortunately I know I’ve been THAT person, too. I hope that I haven’t been THAT person in the last 20 years, but I don’t think I’ve evolved enough yet!