In a recent post, Advice to the Bride to Be, I shared the only advice I had for a friend who is about to get married.
My advice was simple: Love Big. In the comments section of that post, you the readers of this blog, proved what I have already known for a long time…that you are far more insightful than the writer of this blog.
You had advice of your own for the bride-to-be and it doesn’t seem fair to keep that advice hidden in the comments section, so here are some are some morsels of wisdom from you…
- Compromise…..and Love Big! –Frau
- I think I’d probably say something about listening, not just hearing but listening. –Liz
- Life is personal and advice doesn’t always fit. I would say respect. Give respect and expect respect. –lisleman
- Accept your partner for who and what they are – you are not going to change them anyhow. Be willing to grow and develop with them. Listen (and watch body language), think, then talk if need be.-Wayne
- I endorse plenty of love and would add laughter and a huge sense of humor.-Vidya
- When you’re in the bathroom, take a look before you sit down.-Classic NYer
- Don’t do it!! 😀 Sorry. I’ve been with my partner for 25 years now. I think my advice would be to give one another space.-L.L. Cool Joe
- I always use “may all your troubles be little ones.”-Judith
- If you want something really bad, find a way to make him think it was his idea.-Mrs. 4444
- …make sure you get the road of communication opened up early in your marriage. Talking is so important. Don’t be shy with the one you love.-Debby
- Never go to bed angry.-Eva
- The best advice I ever heard was to think of your spouse as a gift. On Christmas morning we don’t run down to open our presents only to think- I don’t like this about it, or I wish it was this, etc. So why do we start to do that to our spouse? Notice the good- the things you love and those things will grow. –Emmymom
- My advice would be that there will be times you don’t like your husband very much…and that’s totally normal!!-Tiffany
- It boils down to this: You can’t know now what life has not taught you yet. So don’t sweat the small stuff and almost everything will turn out to be small stuff looking back on your long life together. With ever argument, every trial ask yourself “Is this the memory I want to remember for the rest of my life should this be our last day together. It makes putting your spouse first and easy decision to make.-Rita Stebbing
Good stuff right?
Since I offered my original piece of advice, more advice has come to me that I would like to pass along not just to brides to be, but to everyone in general…
- Do not postpone bliss.
- In life and relationships: choose happiness.
My very last piece of advice is to watch the following video; it truly puts things into perspective. You won’t be sorry…