This weekend I went to my friend Momo’s bridal shower. We were asked to bring pictures and advice to put together scrapbook pages for the bride to be. Finding a picture to bring was not hard. But advice for the bride to be? I showed up with nothing.
I’ve been married for almost 5 years now, but I am no expert. In fact, I have many shortcomings when it comes to being married. For example…
- I’m petty.
- I’m argumentative.
- I can be selfish and self-involved.
- I fight to win, which means sometimes I don’t fight fair.
As I worked on the scrapbook page with the help of my 3-year-old, Put Pie, I tried to find a way to avoid the whole advice issue because all I could think of was negative stuff and who the heck wants to focus on the negative? So we filled the page…
…until there was no room left to give marriage advice and I thought I would leave it at that, but then I saw the word LOVE on someone else’s scrapbook page and all of a sudden I knew that I did have advice to give.
I flipped the page over and shared the one thing about being married that I do get right.
I may not be the perfect wife, but I do know how to LOVE BIG.
What advice would you give the bride to be?
Read the follow-up post: Advice for the Bride (From You).
Compromise…..and Love Big!
That is great advice. I think I’d probably say something about listening, not just hearing but listening.
nice crafty work. Life is personal and advice doesn’t always fit. I would say respect. Give respect and expect respect.
Accept your partner for who and what they are – you are not going to change them anyhow. Be willing to grow and develop with them. Listen (and watch body language), think, then talk if need be.
Excellent advice!!!
So lovely! Yes, I endorse plenty of love and would add laughter and a huge sense of humor.
Unknown Mami, the winner of the book giveaway is announced 😀 Congratulations!Hugs!
When you’re in the bathroom, take a look before you sit down.
Don’t do it!! 😀
Sorry. I’ve been with my partner for 25 years now. I think my advice would be to give one another space.
You must be doing something right or you would have killed each other after 25 years.
That is excellent advice. If I may I would like to use it for my neice who is getting married this summer. I always use “may all your troubles be littlle ones”
Pass it along.
If you want something really bad, find a way to make him think it was his idea :)haha
I love your pages. Maybe make sure you get the road of communication opened up early in your marriage. Talking is so important. Don’t be shy with the one you love.
Never go to bed angry.
That is great advice! The best advice I ever heard was to think of your spouse as a gift. On Christmas morning we don’t run down to open our presents only to think- I don’t like this about it, or I wish it was this, etc. So why do we start to do that to our spouse? Notice the good- the things you love and those things will grow
I love that simple statement. My advice would be that there will be times you don’t like your husband very much…and that’s totally normal!!! 😉 BTW, that park from Sunday is amazing…my kids would go nuts for that slide!!!
Funny you should ask that question just now. My nephew is getting married tomorrow and as part of my gift I wrote them a letter. In in I explained the one thing that I learned from my marriage, early widowhood and remarriage .
It boils down to this:
You can’t know now what life has not taught you yet. So don’t sweat the small stuff and almost everything will turn out to be small stuff looking back on your long life together. With ever argument, every trial ask yourself “Is this the memory I want to remember for the rest of my life should this be our last day together. It makes putting your spouse first and easy decision to make.
I love this!
Thank you!