Perhaps it is Spring or maybe it is that Unknown Papi and I are truly focusing on being positive, but I’m in a really good mood lately. Happy, I’d say and for no particular reason. I’m excited about life and feel hopeful.
One of the things I’m focusing on is being happy instead of right. Example: I called my husband and for whatever reason, he snapped at me or I felt like he was snapping at me. I snapped right back and quickly got off the phone, not so quickly that I was hanging up on him, but fast enough so that he knew I wanted to hang up on him. Then I sat there fuming for all of 10 seconds before I realized it was stupid to get upset about something so insignificant. I sent him a text because I didn’t want to bother him at work again, saying I was sorry for my reaction and that I hoped he had a good day. And then you know what? It was over. The next time we talked we were both in a good mood again and I wasn’t all preoccupied about getting an apology from him just to prove that I had been right to be irritated with him in the first place. Instead of fighting to come out the winner, we both won.
Have you been watching The Voice? I’m really enjoying it. I love that a wide age range has been represented. Talent shouldn’t have an expiration date.
Every time someone doesn’t make it, I get choked up because they are all talented and they all want it so bad. It will be interesting to see how the show progresses.
Confession time. Growing up, I wasn’t sure I would ever want to get married or have kids and I never ever imagined being or wanting to be a stay-at-home mom. Never. I was raised by a single working mom and I was fine with it. I have a lot of issues with my mother, but I have nothing but respect, admiration, and gratitude for her commitment to work in order to support her children.
Well, I grew up and got married to a man I was perfectly happy living in sin with mostly because I decided to have kids (who knew I’d be so conventional?) and guess what? I want to stay home with my kids. I still don’t judge anyone for choosing to work or having to work outside the home while raising kids, but what I want is to work from home. Right now, I’m only working 1 or 2 days outside the home, which is not so bad at all, but what I REALLY want is to work from home period (except for if I get an acting gig because that doesn’t even feel like work and I love it).
Strange how sometimes we end up wanting what we imagined we would never want.
And now your Friday Fortune Cookie (don’t forget to add “in bed” at the end, if you are so inclined):
“Action is the real measure of intelligence.” -Napoleon Hill
Mami, that TED video your husband sent you that you passed on to everyone?? It really struck a chord with me and I shared it with all my extended family and friends. I came away from it realizing more than ever that “it just doesn’t matter”.
Is it really something to get upset about? I especially remember when he said that in the two years after the crash landing, he and his wife haven’t had an argument. He was given the gift of looking into the future and being able to go back in time.
I really look at things and try to remember, “it really doesn’t matter”.
That video really resonated with me and I do feel like I’ve improved because of it. Patterns are hard to break, but I’m finding it easier to just let it go.
Yep, I used to not want to be married and NEVER be pregnant (I kinda wanted kids but not the pregnant part). Weird how I met a guy and everything I ever THOUGHT I wanted changed.
It is great to be in a happy mood. Why don’t we put ourselves in that good place more often? Have a great weekend.
I grew up with a mom who was unable to stay home with us and although she was a great business woman (she eventually had her own so she could have my bros. and sis. with her.) she resented the fact that she couldn’t be with us. I think that since I saw this first hand it’s always been my desire to be a stay at home mom. Now I just have to work on the mom thing.
I’ve only seen the voice once and I really liked it but haven’t had the chance to keep following.
I think it’s wonderful what you are doing with your husband. I’m a guilty person by nature so I tend to be the one apologizing even though sometimes it hurts my pride (if I think I’m right.) It’s better to be harmonious with the person you spend most of your time with.
I probably would have been voted least likely to be a sahm in high school – when I connect with old friends on facebook some of them do a double take… but I’m so glad we are able to make the choice that’s best for us!
Hope things go well with being happy instead of trying to be right – I struggle with that too…
Good for you just letting things go like that. I have been trying to do the same and it isn’t always easy, but it dos make life happier.
Funny how we do wish for things when we’re younger and how very much life can make those ideas change. (I wanted to be an astronaut when i was little…)
I’m happy and hopeful, too, lately. Could it be the end of my school year? The root canal? Getting to meet you this summer? Hmmm…..
My life today is nothing like I imagined for myself. I’m so happy about that, and I’m happy for you 🙂
I have been watching it and I am sometimes confused by their choices, but I am mostly amazed by the smallness of CeeLo Green. He’s freakishly small. Also I am loving Chirstina’s baby boobs, and baby hips and butt.
aw, i’m so happy for you!! thinking positively and being in a happy mood is such a wonderful thing.
that quote is really great! thanks for sharing.
big hugs!
betty xx
I guess sometimes we really don’t know what we want. I’m just the opposite. When I was young, I thought I’d be a stay at home mom with lots of kids and a pet for each. Instead, it turns out I work, got married late in life (40s) and only have 3 pets without kids. I am happy though and that’s what counts!
I love your attitude and need to work on my own..happy days and great moods are far more fun. I watched The Voice this week and loved it! I wish I could have stayed at home when my daughter was little, but I also realized I was not a get on the ground play with your kid kind of mom either so daycare was so much better for her socially…at least that is what I convinced myself all those years ago. Happy Mother’s day!!!
Inteligence in bed I love it! I loved that video also…we have been watching Joel Olsteen and I’m not sure I’m all that religious but that man is one heck of a motivational speaker. I always feel like I can do anything after watching him…and I can:)
My mom watches Joel and I am definitely not religious, but I totally see his appeal. He does make you feel like you can accomplish anything.
I love the line, “Talent has no expiration date.” That is so true, and I’m loving the show, too!
I think a lot of us have lives that have turned out way different than we thought they would when we were young. Finding what makes us happy in our life as it is puts us in a very good place.
No doubt.
I grew up with a mother who worked full time. I never thought about being a SAHM when I was growing up, but I am one today and I wouldn’t trade it for anyhting. I used to work from home on the computer, formatting resumes and getting paid well. That job ended and I now babysit 2 kids the same age as my 2 and I love it!
That is awesome you are so happy and such! Wish I could be, but maybe it is the weather today, it is yucky and overcast!
Hey back again because I just read a clip in the biz section – related to your SAHM thing – a consumer website calculated the replacement cost of a mom (ok we all know mom is NOT replaceable) anyway the cost for the various tasks – child care, planning, tutoring, etc. totals out at $61,436 – time for a raise?
Glad you are so happy lately!!!
“One of the things I’m focusing on is being happy instead of right”.
Actually you were happy and right. You took the high road and apologized.
Isn’t it a sense of freedom to know you are happy? I find myself choosing to be happy and that is a great feeling. Good for you.
Great attitude – – about your mom and life. And I haven’t been watching, but I like the idea that the judges don’t get to see the contestants. I think that makes it much more about true talent. My ugly mug would have a much better shot on a show like that.
It’s much easier to turn off the grumbling once you realize that the only person that’s really paying the price is yourself.
Sometimes all you need is a little fresh air/space to let the happy in. Being right is not always healthy for a marriage- good choice on your part. {you win! 😉 lol! I’m too competitive.}
BTW, I love the new plug-in!
Love the post! I need to learn how to be mad, realize this is crazy, then move on! I have to check out that new show.
I love this “fragmented” post. I am so behind on my reader….
Hubby and I are trying to focus on being positive and recognizing the positive intent of the other (instead of assuming one of us is trying to be an ass, in other words). It can get difficult sometimes.
I have been watching the Voice and I am surprised how much I love it. I don’t really care for American Idol but I love the emotions behind the stories of the people who are auditioning and I love it when they do really well but they don’t LOOK like superstars. Know what I mean?
Also…about wanting what you never thought you would? Bingo. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom. I can say that I still do not. However, I never want to go back to a mental health agency and working 12 months out of the year. Even private practice sounds like too much to manage. When working with hateful, ignorant people every day though? It makes me reconsider what I want.
Best,
Tina
Oh, I love feeling happy and positive. So happy to hear this is how YOU feel!
I haven’t watched that show. I don’t even know why I’m watching Idol. It’s so hard to see them go! I am glad you have the opportunity to be a stay at home mother. Have a wonderful Mother’s Day.
I really want to watch The Voice but I haven’t been able to catch it yet!
I never imagined I’d be doing what I’m doing…but I love it more than anything.
still haven’t watched the voice. I think it’s Aguilera that’s stopping me.
I was a little resistant because of Aguilera. I definitely have some bias against her, but she’s fine and now I’m used to her.
Great lesson on marriage and just getting along in life. Sometimes it’s better to just let it go right away. I’m always thankful when I manage to do that instead of letting it ruin the day.