My husband and I are undergoing a shift in perception. It’s nice. Without getting into it too much because if I do it will just sound all silly and new agey, we are focusing our energy on what we want instead of what we don’t want.
I feel like I understand this concept and it has been proven to me time and time again that the Universe is abundant, but I forget and need to be reminded. When I am living with this understanding, I feel rich and like anything is possible.
No one “out there” is trying to keep me from having what I want. Usually, I am the one that puts up barriers. I tell myself I can’t do something because I am too young or too old or too fat or too thin. It’s all BS.
It is amazing that every time I get out of my own way, wonderful things happen.
Yesterday, I started reading Little Bee by Chris Cleave. Even if I do not end up liking the book, it will have been worth it just to read this passage…
“On the girl’s brown legs there were many small scars. I was thinking, Do those scars cover the whole of you, like the stars and the moon on your dress? I thought that would be pretty too, and I ask you right here please to agree with me that a scar is never ugly. That is what the scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agreement to defy them. We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? this will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, I survived.”
Just typing it out got me teary. I’ve always had an affinity for scars.
And now your Friday Fortune Cookie (don’t forget to add “in bed” at the end, if you are so inclined):
“Envy is ignorance.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
I agree! Looking for what we want and pursuing that is far more successful than just pointing and saying “no”. It’s good advice that can be hard to take some times. Good for you.
I have not read Little Bee but have heard great things about it.
I have more scars than I care to admit, and that is amazing….a scar means I survived!! I love that, and as much as I hate HOW I got my scars, both physically and emotionally, I am proud of each and every one, because they do mean I survived!
I like that last line you quoted about scars mean you survived.
Stopping by from FF.
What a fantastic quote, Mami – ‘scars do not form on the dying. A scar mean I survived.
i prefer to be positive as well, but it is amazing when it sneaks in and darkens my outlook.
my boys love scars too, i would hope that folks can see the true beauty within us. our packages may not be pretty, but our hearts are!!
I used to have a t-shirt (that a very hot boy gave me) that said “chicks dig scars. die trying”. I loved that shirt.
I think scars are indicative of character and living. The more you live, the more character you build — and scars, both visible and invisible, show the spirit you have. 🙂
What an uplifting post, Mami! It’s just what I needed to read this morning. Muchas gracias y te amo!
I love your thought that no one is trying to keep you from having what you want.
I will look forward to hearing about all that comes your way from this shift in perception.
It is hard to get out of your own way but when you do it is fantastic.
I actually loved that! “A scar means I survived!”
I read a post like this and feel compelled to comment in a serious thoughtful way. But then I remember that funny character you have and say screw it.
I thought “Scarface” was a terrible movie.
You are so lucky I have a sense of humor, silly! I hated Cape Fear with Robert DeNiro. Hated it! Not sure what that has to do with my post, but now you know.
Ok twisted sister, “Cape Fear” has nothing to do with your post but “Scarface” does have the word scar in it but no DeNiro (a favorite of mine).
I love DeNiro, but hate Cape Fear.
I fear you are stuck on this cape. I didn’t bring it up. But I agree sometimes we must face our scars.
That is really a great line, and I love your observation that good things come to you when you get out of your own way. It is healthy to believe that things are possible. Personally I’m partial to prayer, but whatever works to improve your outlook—go for it.
It’s wonderful to hear that it’s you and your husband going through this change together. It’s a great reminder to know that we are the only ones in our own way.
I must get that book. I am so teary:( You might think I just had a baby; I’ve been so emotional. Thank you for your kind comment. I believe that we should all act the part of who we want to be. Focus on what is to come; positive thinking, walking and acting.
Feel free to recommend a good book on this subject–I’m open to learning more about it.
The old adage, “be careful what you ask for” is so very true. I have honestly received everything I have ever asked for – both good and bad. Learning to transform your desires into something positive is tremendous. Congrats
Love the quote! Scars are like badges that should be proudly displayed.
Happy Easter!
Oh! What an amazing and beautiful sentiment. I have a scar on my nose that has a LONG history — certainly not as tragic as many but a very painful one, nonetheless. I do believe that I shall look at it a little differently now. Thanks.
I am doing much the same thing with focus. I have a thousand reasons why I can’t have what I want. And I am terribly clear on what I don’t want (notice I said terribly). But I am now trying to really decide what I DO want and believe that life is full of infinite possibilities allowing such a want to become reality.
Much luck and love to you,
Traci
LOVE love love that passage. Thank you so much!!!
Little Bee is a very good book. Not a happy, feel-good book, but very good.
I think your new outlook is wonderful!