I’m turning 40 this year. 40 and I’m not freaking out at all. I freaked out at 30, which in retrospect seems so silly. At 30, I felt like time was ticking and I hadn’t accomplished anything. At 40, I look at my life and appreciate the experiences and relationships. I don’t measure success as simply or superficially as I did a decade ago.
I’ve started thinking about what I want for my birthday and what I want is not any one thing, what I want is an experience in the form of a trip. I want to go to Hawaii. My birthday is in May and I just don’t see it happening that soon. Perhaps, my birthday wish is that I get to go to Hawaii sometime during my 40th year.
Why do I want to go to Hawaii so badly? Not for the beaches, not for the resorts. I want to go for my husband. My husband was born and raised in Hawaii and when he speaks of it his eyes glaze over with nostalgia and love. I love my husband and his childhood in Hawaii seems to have much to do with the wonderful man he has become.
You’d think that in 10 years of being together we would have managed to take a trip to his former home, but money has always been an issue. It’s not so much the plane fare, that we can swing; it’s the accommodations. His mother owns a place on Oahu, but for reasons I am not at liberty to disclose we cannot stay with her and we can’t afford a hotel.*
No matter. Time and time again I am reminded that the Universe is abundant, so I’m putting my birthday wish out there:
I want to go to Hawaii!
I’ll send you a virtual postcard via this blog when my wish comes true.
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*We get along great with my MIL. When we go, we will surely spend lots of time with her. We just can’t stay at her place.
You’ll get there! The last 10 years life a season was happening, now you’re entering into a different season & you’ll get to live this dream just think of it as “when we go” and move toward that goal 🙂
I think the Universe will hear you and you will get to go.
Oh, I too freaked out a 30 for the same reasons and will most likely freak out at 40 for the same reasons.
My mom lives in Hawaii. I don’t really like to go there. It’s beautiful, but to me it’s like going to Ohio to visit relatives. But I have been a lot because my mom pays for the tix and I stay with her. (She knows that is she didn’t I probably wouldn’t go). Your first visit will be great and to see it with your husband who lived there will make it special. I will wish that your wish comes true!
I hope you get to go. It would be lovely for both (all) of you.
good luck.
I like confusedhomaker’s comment about “when we go.” You never know, Mami, stuff happens, even good stuff! I also hope than when you do go, that “grandma” will want to meet her grandchildren. Hugs comming to you!
Oh, grandma has met her grandkids and we all get along great. We would spend time with her, we just can’t stay with her.
Ha… I went to the realtor site, entered the info for my current home size, rooms etc and it came back at a cost of about 1 million dollars more than my home is worth here 🙂
Wow.
I hope you get to go with your husband. Being beside him as he recalls so many memories he has long forgotten will be well worth the price you will pay.
I know, I could never afford a home there, but I can’t afford a home in SF either. It’s pretty crazy expensive here.
30 ? I was 30 once ? no way. “We’re all clueless about the age we are until we’ve passed it.” – from a column by Mary Schmich. Does your husband have friends or cousins you could stay with for part of the visit?
I am going to pray right now that your wish comes true! I think the girls would just LOVE it : ) I know you would have a wonderful time too!
40? Yeah, I remember it well. My wife made two gigantic signs that said “Matty is 40”. She hung one across the front of the house, and one across the back of my truck.
Just put a little away a little at a time, and forget about it. Before you know, there will be enough for the trip. I know. I’ve done it.
Yup, maybe our “coin jar” will become our Hawaii fund.
At thirty, I freaked.
At forty, regretted.
At almost fifty, I celebrate the woman I finally have the courage to become.
Happy early birthday and I pray your birthday wish comes true.
I TOTALLY freaked out on the 30 and was cool with the 40. 😉
I feel young in this crowd… ::shrinks:: ::hides::
I feel young too, I’m just not.
OMG.. did you say you are not young??? At 40 you are young and if you are young at heart you are even younger!!!
OMG.. did you say you are not young??? At 40 you are young and if you are young at heart you are even younger!!!
I hope the universe hears you and can’t wait to see your postcard in the mail!40 is nothing try 45 so people say I’m only 40 so I have no idea!
Just do it….life is short and it’s meant to be enjoyed.
I hope you get your wish. I’m sending positive thoughts your way.
You’ll totally get there. Absolutely!!! There are good deals. Great deals at certain times of the year. Especially in Oahu. You’ll be there no worries at all. Just print out some pictures and stare at them long enough … the universe will listen. It did for me! I had to visualise cheap airfares to Hawaii and it happened. It absolutely happened. And we also happened across accommodation within our price range. We’re going in July.
You’re going to Hawaii. You are so totally going ….
Oh, and 40 is the new 30, so you’re fine.
PS maybe a Hawaiian hotel will “sponsor” you at a dramatically reduced rate if you advertise and blog about them. You’ve got a great blog and loads of followers.
It is expensive in Hawaii and also so expensive in California. My son lives on Oahu in an apartment. We compare food and housing prices and he is in awe of how inexpensive it is here compared to Hawaii. Now that you have made your wishes known out to the universe, you should start planning on what to take with you. I could have taken so much less.
Ah..hang loose Maimi! Hawaii has been the vacation of chose for many of my friends and family this year. I hope your birthday wish comes true sooner than later.
I hope you get to go and soon. Tell me what it’s like as it’s one of my dream destinations. I definitely hope I visit there some day.
I think that is a wonderful gift to yourself. It will happen. Have you tried priceline? It’s pretty amazing.
I’m glad you’re not freaked out by 40, I so look forward to it, I’ve heard that things are good at 40. Women are more confident, know what they want. I want to be there. But of course I have to take the road there, like everyone else.
I can’t wait to see the bags on your heads with the beautiful beaches behind them. he he 😉
If you get to go, can I come too??
😉
I’ll gladly take flat Mimi in my luggage.
We love Hawaii…it’s the greatest place for kids. I’m not sure what your budget is…but check out these low rise condos on Napili Bay in Maui – they’re the best and not expensive by Hawaii standards. Plus if you travel in June, it’s much less expensive.
http://www.napilisurf.com
http://www.napilisunset.com
http://www.mauian.com
Can’t recommend this beach enough for kids, too!
I turn 30 on May 2. I’m looking forward to it. 🙂
As for Hawaii – do you have Air Miles you could cash in to help for flight/hotel?
The universe IS abundant. Thank you for this reminder. I needed it.
Cheers to Hawaii. Here is hoping you get there.
I wish you all the best so that you can go to Hawaii this year. I would love to go to Hawaii too and I wish you will be the first to go Mami :), A big hug.
I can relate. I was anxious not being accomplished by the time I hit 30. Now at 40, I’m feeling fabulous! You are a creative person, you’ll find your way to Hawaii sooner or later. Hopefully sooner. 😀
You WILL make it. We’re all behind you! And I want a postcard!
I hope you get to go. I’ve always wanted to go to Hawaii, but what a special trip it would be for you to visit your husband’s childhood home!
Plan it, wish it, make it happen. Life is short. You should go to Hawaii.
I hope you get your wish, follow the dream!
I have a friend who lives in Hawaii lately. I keep wondering why she would stay there when she has a teenage daughter here who desperately needs her mother. This daughter will likely go to Hawaii (for the countless time) this summer and invite her best friend, my daughter. I’m excited for her.
I love that you put your dream out there. You have absolutely nothing to lose, and I hope you win!
What a great wish to wish. I sooo hope that it comes true! Hmmm maybe somone will see this & let you do a review of thier condo or hotel or something. Now, that would be really cool huh!
I am sending you lots of love towards your dream. I have no doubt you will get there!
I was the same way — thirty was huge for me but I think I am in a better place now. My big 4-0 is in July. So happy four decades to us both!
🙂
Traci
40’s are awesome! As for Hawaii…..I’m hoping great answers are on their way for your trip.
I am surprised you haven’t been there since he was born and raised there. I pray that your wish will come true. If I could have a wish I would want to be 40 this year and not 60!
for my 40th I wanna go to Italy! and I will get there, I hope you get to Hawaii! Happy Birthday Mami.